E harmony is so wrong on so many levels where do I start

Victorian Valentine

Findings: Hitting It Off, Thanks to Algorithms of Love

NYT Published: January 29, 2008

As online matchmakers compete for customers using algorithms in the search for love, the battle has intrigued academic researchers who study the mating game.. ..

The NYT ran a story about all the science that goes into the algorithms for internet dating. Bah humbug. I’m all for love, and even for lust, but this is really marketing.

The website Plenty of Fish is by far the most popular internet dating site, mostly because it’s free. For playing the numbers, that’s the way to go. ( I have no connection to this web site whatsoever, except to marvel at its valuation considering it has something like 12 part time employees.)

The NYT article talks about determining by special questionnaires or by body language or whatever whether people are attracted. This fails to account for known variables, such as the stage in the estrus cycle, or whether the person has negative attributional bias.

Anyway, this doesn’t determine if you mate for life, like prairie voles — even if the signals are right, it’s merely dopamine.

But, dopamine, whether via internet dating or in a box of chocolates, can do the trick.

Forget all of that even. People game the system. You put your best foot forward for a new date, or for a new job. And the really pathological will know how to make a fake answer for a personality quiz. The superficial — are you religious, do you like to go out dancing or stay home by the fire — well, most people like to do different things different days.

And if you can answer consistently, you probably are on the fringes — outlying data, stretching the error bars.

Hmmm. Maybe there should be a bar called “Error Bar”. Attracting the self-selecting population of people on the fringe, maybe giving a better shot at finding true love.